The Hidden Forces Behind Self-Sabotage
And How to Overcome Them
You set a goal. You feel motivated, determined. This time will be different.
And then—life happens. You procrastinate, make excuses, or find yourself inexplicably drained. Before you know it, you’re right back where you started, frustrated and wondering: Why do I keep getting in my own way?
This cycle isn’t about laziness or a lack of willpower. It’s about energy.
Why We Resist What We Say We Want
If self-sabotage were just a matter of bad habits, you could fix it with discipline. But real change involves shifting deep, underlying energy patterns.
Here’s the truth: Your nervous system and energy system are wired for familiarity, not fulfillment. Even if your conscious mind wants success, confidence, or freedom, if those things disrupt your internal status quo, your body sees them as a threat.
This is why you might:
✔ Put off important steps toward your goals
✔ Feel exhausted when trying to make a change
✔ Find yourself repeating the same unhealthy patterns
It’s not because you don’t want growth—it’s because a part of you is trying to protect you from the unknown.
How to Break Free from Self-Sabotage
Willpower won’t rewire these patterns, but energy work can. Here’s how you can shift the hidden forces holding you back:
Identify Your Inner Conflict – Ask yourself: What feels unsafe about success, love, or freedom? The answer might surprise you. Sometimes, staying small feels safer than stepping into the unknown.
Regulate Your Nervous System – Every time you reach for a new level in life, your nervous system reacts. Using energy balancing techniques can help you calm that reaction and make change feel safer.
Reprogram the Underlying Beliefs – Self-sabotage is often tied to outdated beliefs like “I don’t deserve this” or “If I succeed, I’ll lose something important.” Shifting these beliefs at an energetic level makes transformation easier and more natural.
Align with a Greater Source of Power – When you connect with a source of energy beyond your own willpower, you stop relying on force and start flowing with change. This makes it easier to move forward without burnout or resistance.
The Key to Lasting Change
You don’t need more discipline or motivation—you need an approach that works with your energy, not against it.
If you’re ready to stop the cycle of self-sabotage, I invite you to explore the free resources at Empowered Self-Help. These tools can help you clear the blocks keeping you stuck and step into the version of yourself that’s been waiting to emerge.
Growth doesn’t have to be a struggle. You can move forward with clarity, confidence, and ease.
If you would like guidance and support in calming your nervous system or shifting unfelpful beliefs , I have a limited number of intro sessions available here.